SOLC 29 of 31: Storms and Grief

Last night, as quickly as the storms rolled in, they passed. The winds howled, the rain pelted the skylights, the furniture was pushed across the deck, the trees snapped and then… it was over. The damage was done with power outages, soaked lawns and flooded streets. And in the days to come, the waters will recede, the grass will dry out and the sun will shine again.

It’s been just over a year since my sibling passed away unexpectedly. Last night, as I was talking to my parents, my mom commented that she was beginning to feel that a smile may one day come before her sadness. That although she couldn’t have imagined surviving the past year filled with extreme grief, that some days are easier than others.

Just like with a storm that comes in and leaves damage behind, the grief is still always there, but there will be days when the sun will shine again, when houses are rebuilt and when smiles and laughter creep back in to fill your days with positivity.

Grief is not something you get over, but it is something you learn to adjust to and live with. Time doesn’t heal the hurt of losing a loved one, but time does give us more moments to intersperse the grief with moments of levity, being present in the moment and finding joy in both memories of our loved one and support from those still living around us.

5 Comments

  1. Cathy M said,

    March 29, 2021 at 11:15 am

    This line was powerful: my mom commented that she was beginning to feel that a smile may one day come before her sadness.

    I am so sorry for your family’s loss. While grief is always hard, it is compounded by the challenges of being with others in this past year. Yes, storms come quickly and soon things appear to return to their normal state, but there is always that moment when you stumble upon that branch or debris left from damage of the event. Sometimes when you least expect it.

    Your use of a storm to write about grief is an analogy we can all relate to in our lives.

  2. Orval Jewett said,

    March 29, 2021 at 11:54 am

    Yes. The grief is always there. It is something we go to for many different reasons. Thank you so much for sharing this Slice!

  3. March 29, 2021 at 4:47 pm

    Equating storms to grief is perfect. Sometimes it comes on suddenly and others times it builds gradually and some storms are easier than others just like some days are easier than others. It sounds like you and your mom are supporting each other.

  4. caroline524 said,

    March 30, 2021 at 12:08 am

    The use of a storm was brilliant! There are times when you think the storm will overtake you, but holding on to other loved ones helps you stay grounded.

  5. Christine said,

    March 30, 2021 at 1:24 am

    I am sorry for your loss. I too love the connection between grief and storms. As a young widow I can relate. I just read an article about grief surges, where you have these moments that you surge up in your grief – much like a storm or rising waters. Thanks for sharing and being vulnerable. We learn from each other in this community!


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