SOLC 16 of 31: Letting Kindness In

All around us are slogans and reminders to be kind. “In a world where you can be anything, be kind.” “Choose Kindness.” “Kindness Rocks.” “Be Kind.” These are all reminders of what we can do for others. But sometimes, you have to be kind to yourself, and let kindness in.

On the Tuesday after my brother died, and I had just returned from being in Florida where he lived, I got a call from a colleague and friend offering to bring over dinner for my family and me. “Yes, please,” I told her. The day had been one dotted with continual texts, messages and phone calls and tears. Lots and lots of tears. I was exhausted. So, yes, please. Yes to letting the kindness of their offer in and accepting it without guilt. Yes to allowing myself to be ok with being unable to make any life decisions like what to eat. Yes to hearing, really hearing, the offers and taking them up on it.

You see, we can be kind to one another. But sometimes being kind to ourselves means being vulnerable and letting kindness in. How do you let kindness in?


  1. March 16, 2020 at 7:30 pm

    Great thought provoking question at the end. I think that oftentimes we think those slogans apply to others, not ourselves.

  2. Anita Ferreri said,

    March 16, 2020 at 11:39 pm

    Oh yes, I am so glad you accepted the offer of help. There are times when we all need to GIVE and times when we all need to ACCEPT help. This is a reminder of the power of a meal to take one thing off a person’s plate.
    I often have trouble letting kindness in – a feeling of not being worthy of accepting help. I am not proud of this and am working to be more open about my weaknesses.

  3. rdicarne said,

    March 17, 2020 at 1:47 am

    Being kind isn’t difficult for me, but allowing others to be kind is sooo hard. You are right; it makes us vulnerable.
    I have started to let younger teachers carry my school bag upstairs to my room when they ask. It is hard to admit my legs are not as strong as they use to be. 😕

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